5 Simple Ways to Enjoy Motherhood Today
Do you ever have those days when you don’t enjoy being a mom? You start the day hustling your children to get ready and rushing to school. After school, maybe you have gymnastics or basketball practice. You hurry home to start dinner (which you forgot to plan), and then it’s time for homework. My children can easily make 20 minutes of homework take 2 hours! Then the endless excuses for why they are not ready to go to sleep (forgot to brush their teeth, need a drink of water, forgot to put a book in their book bag, you’ve probably heard all these excuses, too).
The everyday events of being mom can be tiring for even the happiest mom. You are not alone. All moms have moments when it’s hard to enjoy being mom. A mom’s life is very demanding. It’s okay to need a moment to remember why you enjoy being a mom.
On the hard days (and even on the fun and easy days), let’s pause and remember why we love being a mom.
5 Ways to Pause and Enjoy Being a Mom
A few weeks ago, I shared a story about baking cookies with my youngest daughter. When we started, I just wanted to hurry and be done. But then I stopped and realized I needed to pause and enjoy the moment. Baking with my daughter was a special time I should enjoy. I needed to be present with her in that moment.
So many days and times we are all so busy, we are not present for the everyday moments with our children. As you go through your day and have time with your children, be sure to focus on being present with them. Your phone and your emails will wait a few more minutes. But your children are important and they need your attention right now.
As moms, we tend to compare everything don’t we? We compare ourselves to other moms, we compare our children to their siblings and to other people’s children. Comparison only leads us back to frustration and resentment because we feel that we don’t measure up.
The good news is that we can overcome comparison by focusing on uniqueness. What makes you a unique mom? What qualities did God give you that are perfectly suited to raise your children?
The same is true for your children. What are their unique qualities that make them special? When you stop focusing on other siblings or other people’s children you will see how your own children shine.
Realize You Can’t Do It All, Accept Help Graciously
We get overwhelmed, stressed and frustrated when we try to do everything (usually all at one time). The other day, 2 of my children were invited to birthday parties that started at almost the same time (or so I thought). I realized I could not be in both places at once. I asked my husband to help. As it turned out, when I checked the invitations on the day of the parties, the parties were at different times, so we didn’t have a problem after all.
Sometimes you may need help picking your children up after school or taking them to their after school activities. Maybe you need help getting homework done every night. It’s okay to ask for help, you don’t have to be super mom.
Always Give Your Kids Hugs & Kisses
When our kids our little we tend to kiss and cuddle them all the time, but as they grow we sometimes don’t hug and kiss them as much or they think it’s not cool. We need to always stay in the habit of giving our children hugs and kisses.
Take time at bedtime for a hug and kiss and talk about something important from their day. Share a song or a funny story. These are special moments and they are too few.
Set Aside Time to Just Enjoy Your Kids
Have a special time every week or in the evenings when you can enjoy your children. Play a game together, watch a movie together. These special times will become special memories as your children grow.
Maybe you even have a special time with each child, like a mommy and daughter day or Mom and son date and do something special they love to do.
Being a mom is hard work. Sometimes we have to pause from our everyday activities. Remember to be present in the moment, don’t compare ourselves or our children, realize all need a little help sometimes. Don’t miss any hugs and kisses and take time to just enjoy your kids. You won’t regret it.
Tools for Mom – Make Over Your Evenings
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As moms, we need a little help from time-to-time that’s why I love Make Over Your Evenings. It’s one of my favorite resources available for moms. When we have a great evening routine that includes time with our family to relax and enjoy each other, we can be ready for the next day.
Make Over Your Evenings includes 14 lessons and a workbook to help you improve your evening routines and prepare for each day the night before. Having an evening routine that works will give you time to pause and enjoy being a mom.
Topics included in this course are:
- The importance of setting your priorities for the day the night before
- Preparing for tomorrow the evening before
- How to make sleep a priority so you are rested and ready for your day
- Admit your own character flaws and learn out to overcome them
- Create your own prioritized to-do list
- Being realistic with your evening routine
- Having a backup plan B & C
- And so much more…
A successful evening routine truly does make your day a success. I have an evening routine I follow every day and it makes all the difference.
How do you pause and enjoy being a mom? What is your favorite activity to do with your children?