The Many Important “Roles” Mom’s Complete in their Children’s Lives
My youngest daughter (who is 6) walked up to me a few days ago and said, “Mommy, I just don’t have any shoes to wear with these clothes.” I looked at her knowing she had several pairs of shoes that would be perfect and suggested the pair I thought she would like best. Then I started thinking about all the “jobs” that moms do in their children’s lives. Being mommy means we have many roles we complete in our children’s lives.
Today’s post is a tribute to moms and all the roles we complete in our children’s lives to help them grow into responsible adults.
Top 10 Titles for Mom
One of our most important roles as mom is teacher. For all the good and probably some of the not so good, we will be the primary teacher for our children. They will watch us, they will learn from us, when they grow up they will ask themselves, “what would mom do?” when making important decisions.
The role of primary teacher is one of the most important roles you will have as mom. Our children will follow our example. Be sure you are the example you want your children to follow.
If you have 2 or more children, you have been the judge. They will have a disagreement, or the favorite, “I had it first!” You will have to decide in a fair way who should get the toy or how to get them to play together.
As our children get older, we have to have discernment. We must determine when our child is telling us the truth or what is the best course of action (even if it’s unpopular with your child). These are the responsibilities of the “chief judge”.
Your child will come to you with a negotiation. If I complete all my homework by 6:00 pm, can I play video games? You will negotiate how long your child can play the video games. Children try to negotiate with parents all day. As moms, we must be wise negotiators.
Do you hear this question every day, “Mom, what’s for dinner?” As mom, we prepare meals, make lunches and encourage our children to eat healthy.
Chief Problem Solver
Just like the problem with the shoes I mentioned at the beginning of this post, moms help their children solve problems. We can direct them to take actions or ask them questions to help them solve the problem on their own.
Mom has to “make the call.” Mom is the head referee in many household disputes.
One of your children has music class, one has soccer practice, one has play practice. One just wants to go to the store for new shoes. As mom, you are the head chauffeur who will pick-up and deliver everyone where they need to go and be on time of course.
Be sure to make this time special. Ask about their practice and what they learned in school.
Coach and General Manager
As mom, we spend a significant part of our time coaching our children. We coach them to help them learn how to take care of themselves.
I consider homework time coaching time. Every weeknight we spend one to two hours or more completing homework assignments. During this time, I coach. I show my children how to study better, how to correctly answer test questions, and how to complete assignments.
I also have to be their general manager. If I don’t remind them to complete their assignments, they will get distracted and homework takes longer.
I saved my favorite 2 titles for last…
Chief Nurturer and Comforter
When our children are sad and disappointed, we can be there for them. We can hold their hand and give them hugs.
We can help them understand disappointments are a part of life. As mom, we can teach them an appropriate response.
We also comfort them and nurture them in their disappointments. We can share stories from our own experiences.
Chief Hug & Cuddle Giver
All child need hugs, kisses and cuddles from their mom no matter what their age. Children need to know their mom loves them and supports them. A mom’s love will make a child more confident.
Mom’s also love to get a chance to have hugs, kisses and cuddles too! It’s one of the best parts of being a mom.
Whew! You didn’t realize all the jobs you have as mom. Do you feel tired now?
What is your favorite job as mom? What other title should mom have?